This talk has been extremely convicting for me. I had no idea that I was harboring resentment towards my kids, but all the signs were so clear after listening to this. God is dealing with some BIG stuff in me right now, but He’s doing what He knows He has to do right now to prepare me for what comes next.
Freedom from bondage: bitterness
Forgiveness: giving up your right to be angry at someone for hurting you.
Think: what would it be like, to go to work tomorrow, w your hands bound and ball and chain on your feet. It would be hard to do what you set out to do, it would be very difficult to get anything done because your mind would be divided, you’d be hampered all day long.
We were made to walk in freedom!!! But satan paints in attitudes, in our minds in false colours we can’t even see them!
If I’m not willing to look inside ***or am always blaming others for my problems… *** that will be a real problem, but if I am willing to look inside myself maybe I can unconver something. Paul tells us in Ephesians:
31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, with all malice, 32 and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ep 4:31-32)
Clamor- outcry of passion resulting from anger
Wrath- violent outburst of anger.
Slander – injuring others with our words
Malice- intention or desire to injure someone else
God tells us to put that stuff away and have a kind tender-hearted forgiving spirit.
Sometimes we don’t even know, we’re bitter… But we can’t experience the love of God flowing through us because it’s all dammed up!
If you have bitterness you have an attitude towards others and you have this wall, and you keep building the wall to keep you from any further hurts…Bitterness shows in an attitude towards others.So w this bitterness you build up a wall – then you live behind this wall you go to work behind this wall, you fellowship behind this wall, you live in a family behind this wall, because you don’t want to be hurt anymore. And the bitterness and resentment and anger and malice and hostility are the stones that are part of that wall you’ve built to protect yourself from others! So You build this wall to protect yourself, from being hurt.
What is beneath all this?? Unforgiveness. And Just deciding not to be angry and resentful doesn’t work!!!
Satan’s language whispers a cover up- I’m just hurt, disillusioned, frustrated.. Truth is I have an unforgiving spirit, and God wants me to deal w my problem, not them!
Truth is God will never send revival to a person w an unforgiving spirit.
Sometimes we don’t even know… But we can’t experience the love of God flowing through us because it’s all dammed up! w this wall of bitterness Love and life of God can not flow!
Parents will never be able to enjoy their family as long as an unforgiving spirit…
You’ll go through life bound by these attitudes that you allow into your life.
The love of God can’t flow through me: how can I be concerned about the things of God when I’m so focused on just SURVIVING this anger and hostility and frustration swirling within me!!
And even more, When you live w anger and frustration- it drains us emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically!!! When a person is living w anger and bitterness and resentment toward other people, what happens emotionally, is there is a continuous drain. There’s a continuous drain of mental energy. A continual drain of physical energy. — You can never be afraid your peak, you can never be at your very best as long as you have those attitudes dominating in your life.
Why don’t we forgive?-
Why can’t we forgive? That’s just it, if we say we can’t forgive that’s a lie- it means we don’t want to. We can, but why do we think we can not?
- We’re protecting big ‘I’- somebody has harmed big ‘I’. Someone has intruded upon big ‘I’.
We are selfish… And whenever big ‘I’ is on throne we are being selfish!! We are expressing selfishness.
-I don’t want to be hurt.
-I don’t want to be wronged
-I don’t want to be treated unfairly..
-I have a case against them AND I’m looking for evidence to further support my claim!!!
We do that, we go, looking for more evidence that we are right and they’re wrong!!
Because Jesus is not on throne if my life, I am trying to protect big ‘I’. If I’m committed to protecting big ‘I’ how am I going to forgive you?
2. We have a wrong idea of forgiveness
We say forgive you, but we demand JUSTICE!
When you pay off your debt to me then I’ll forgive you. How are they ever going to pay it off ?!?! In our bitterness-The little things get bigger and bigger in our mind!!! So big that not even God could pay off that debt to us…
We have all this anger churning on the inside and were full of all this garbage we ourselves have concocted… and we Expect some kind of payment for wrongs…
Even if the person has wronged you, if you don’t let it go, then you become THEIR prisoner!! If you’re angry in return and hostile and butter to them you have all this binding and churning inside, NOW, they have wounded you verbally or what have you, but they’ve also made you a PRISONER OF THEIR WRONGS and you are suffering as a result.
If my priority is to protect myself I won’t have a forgiving spirit.
If I expect you to fulfill some set requirements for wronging me that you’re never going to be able to fulfill, I can’t have a forgiving spirit.
People say I just can’t forgive them, it’s a lie from the devil…the truth is it’s not that they can’t, they WON’T.
Because I have to protect big I, how can big ‘I’ be injured like this… How can I be injured like that and then be forgiving (you don’t understand what they did?!) so, I’m going to PROTECT MYSELF because I’m selfish.
Owe no man anything but to love him – Romans 13:8 (that means forgiveness!)
3. A third reason is sometimes They like talking about it- and or they want someone to tell them they’re right in their anger and their sin and their disobedience to God.
Not that they planned it this way, but because they’re deceived, they get their needs met by all this attention of how they have been harmed and wronged in their life…
Repression doesn’t help, Nope, I’m not angry… At them, at God… ( Satan…) You can’t be helped as long as you are repressing and suppressing your anger…
God says, Put these things away!!!
Lastly, If you have discovered an attitude of unforgiveness, confess it to Him, and ask him to help you deal w it.
You can listen to the full talk here: https://www.intouch.org/listen/featured/freedom-from-bondage-part-1